If you could live that life free from challenges, would you choose to do so? What would you miss if you had the power to do that? Our hurdles are the best catalysts for us if we only allow them to be.
Every obstacle is a chance to learn and should be used to show us the best we can be. These difficult moments that come into our lives can have a profound way of changing us for the better. Should we spend our time and energy looking away from them? No.
We cannot possibly control everything that comes our way. We try, but it’s not possible. We can control how we try to understand and even learn from our challenges. They say that dawn comes after night and spring comes after a harsh winter. Instead we find comfort and fixate on the issues at hand over what we can learn from them.
“While you can’t control your experiences, you can control your explanations.” – Dr. Martin Seligman
Reflection is key in the bounce back. Putting yourself in a posture of listening instead of turning away from what you could possibly have to learn is not easy to always do. Some questions that can start to get you to that place:
What irrational fears do I have from the challenging experience?
What could I potentially be just to attached to and can’t let go?
Am I proud of working through the challenge?
Lastly, we need helpful and positive thinking. When we are more aware of how we talk to ourselves and keep it as uplifting as possible, we can be more open to learn. To place blame on yourself and not learn anything at all could keep you in a permanent state of negativity. Your ability to succeed in another opportunity dramatically drops. Adjusting our thoughts to be more helpful and productive has the opposite impact.
The simplest way to end is with every setback, take a time out to reflect on what you could possibly have to learn. Then simply get up and start again. This is one of my favorites that explains it all so well.
” Let me tell you something you already know. The world ain’t all sunshine and rainbows. It’s a very mean and nasty place and I don’e care how tough you are it will beat you to your knees and keep you there permanently if you let it. You, me, or nobody is going to hit as hard as life. But it ain’t about how hard ya hit. It’s about how hard you can get hit and keep moving forward. How much you can take and keep moving forward. That’s how winning is done!” – Sylvester Stallone, Rocky Balboa
That’s how winning is DONE.