Fear is a liar. We bring fear through letting it hold us back from even starting. We say no to ourselves in those moments before we can possibly say yes. We are all deeply creative, we just have to move past our fear in our own ideas Crossing the threshold you will find the best version of yourself in those moments as well as our meaning, our why. I challenge you to revisit those opportunities if you left them alone or walked away. Learning continuously about them and keeping your options open we can seize the opportunities that were meant to be ours.
First, stop watching the world go by. Get in the game as uncomfortable and unfamiliar as it may be, just try. Making the first choice to get out and at least try will lead to other possibilities. When I don’t feel like visiting the gym or running I just tell myself, “Do one mile or work out for just 15 minutes.” I find 99% of the time once I am in it, I keep going.
Same application applies to anything you want to give a shot. You have to try first and get in it. Once in it, you’ll find you can keep going. You might also find surprise and delight in those moments as you surprise yourself with the skill you actually have. It’s not about perfecting or even winning yet at this stage. It’s just about trying, taking the first step which can turn into many more.
2019 needs to be more about yes, then no. Is your New Year’s resolution as simple as saying you’re going to have a year of YES? You won’t find your threshold by saying no, more than yes. Saying yes until you hit that water mark will help you understand how much you can handle. There are times where I set what I thought was my threshold because I said no to many times to things. Additionally, I lost out on opportunities I should have taken. You’re second stage is saying YES to as much as you can. Your mind and body will tell you when it’s time to say NO. When it does, listen to it.
Stop the comparison shopping and creating competition with everything or one. Be you. Be the best you, you can be. This might be a terrible analogy, but at first I thought being the best runner was beating everyone that was ahead of me. I learned later being the best runner was when I began to see joy in my improvements. When I started to enjoy my personal bests as my competitive wins and worried less about others, I felt more accomplishment. Your third stage is saying yes to your personal wins.
Self-love can get you through just about anything. Not having self-love for yourself can be a huge detractor in meeting your hardest goals. You can learn to love yourself more by getting feedback in real time from friends and family members. These are the people, co-workers, and friends that know you best. Ones you trust. Their feedback you should trust and listen to. Build your inner strength from the feedback of loved ones and true friends. As your self-love and self-confidence grows more will be in your reach. Your fourth stage is building a group of people you trust to be your coaches.
Start by saying yes to yourself to find new opportunities, new challenges, and your own wants or needs taken care of. Start doing today what you’ve dreamt about doing for yourself by saying, YES, YES, YES! Even if it’s just for 30 minutes a day, those minutes will grow into days and years of unbelievable accomplishments. But you have to say yes and take your first step.
Hoping your New Year in 2019 is everything you want it to become!