Let’s bring this into focus. Starting to find my favorite spots to be outside now that we have warmth that lasts more than just 2 hours in the afternoon. I could write outside all day long. I explore rituals and routines first up in this week’s edition. I found some articles that relate to those two main points. Then I have some quotes that really connect with that as well. You will find them all interesting. Sound off in the comments section if you got some ideas for what I can dig into next.
- Routine is defined as a sequence of actions regularly followed; a fixed program. A ritual is defined as a religious or solemn ceremony consisting of a series of actions performed according to a prescribed order. I’ve got routines that I thought were rituals and rituals that I thought were routines. I’m sure we’ve thought about these two words as the same or very closely related family. But, defining them in your life, makes a difference. I have a morning routine where I work on my mental health, spiritual health, and sometimes physical just about every day. That’s a routine I created. It might have started out as a routine, which yes, routines can be born from rituals. Now, sometimes, I have coffee which I hand make in the morning. That’s a ritual to me. Not because it’s infrequent, but I get an experience out of hand crafting a pour over, timing the roasting just right, or making a couple shots of just espresso boiling it for just the right amount of time. It’s truly a ceremony that I enjoy. Now, I could argue the definition a little in regards to it having to be religious. Honestly, a ritual is something that creates an experience that is spiritual, a deep connection with something inside you that makes it very special not just something that’s a habit you created. Something I have definitely been doing some research into my life around. I want more rituals in my life, but also some with others. My running with my run group together a few times a week I would consider a ritual. We talk. We hang out a little after the run. It’s an incredible feeling running in a pack together. That to me is not a routine. It’s special, it’s an experience.
- Love this video for the vid pick of the week from Simon Sinek about Discovering Your ‘Why’ in Difficult Times from TED. Building rituals is great for our mental health and we find our why in many rituals as we discover them. Finding this in difficult times, even healthier for your mental well-being. Sinek talks about a ritual of common groups that can grieve together or experience trauma together. The most healing thing we can do, is to serve someone else that is feeling the same trauma we are. The next article I have to share is based in a routine I found in the WSJ on Why Keeping a Journal Matters: Readers Weigh In. This is a routine that I have been doing in an analog state or digital state for years. I do this routinely throughout my day. But almost always start and end with journaling. My start is taking 5 minutes to journal 3 things I am grateful for, 3 things that I want from my day, and a one sentence confirmation to give myself some positive compassion about being successful. Then at night I recap for 5 minutes on three highlights from the day that felt really good, how I could have done something different or changed something if I went back in time, and lastly some general notes on the day or how I want to grow myself for the next day. The secret to the power of this routine is doing it as often as you can though.
- Three quotes to support the theme of this week in rituals and routines I thought stuck with me from the research I did for the post:
“Yes, there is an alchemy of something truly magical if we can learn through reflecting our thoughts and experiences through daily journaling. There is inward growth.” – Leigh GathrightThis is a routine. The power of that is doing it over and over again. Inward growth doesn’t take hold or place in inconsistently putting forth the effort. Don’t make it a chore. Make it easy, make it just thoughts, then look back. What did you write, think about why you had to get that out, and then write some more about that. Powerful when you’re all done and have spent an hour just purging and learning.
“The point of really enjoying something and key, is not to be great at it. Just enjoy it. The joy is really not in mastering it, it’s what enjoyment you get from it.” – Malcolm GladwellThis is about a ritual to me. Running is a ritual to me, training for a race is the routine. There are times where I just get out there to feel the pavement, wind, and sun with each pound of my shoes hitting the pavement. Joy is what I find in each pounding step. It’s very spiritual at times for me.
“Every day is a chance to begin again. Don’t focus on the failures of yesterday, start today with the positive thoughts and expectations.” – Catherine PulsiferThis is about both. You’re not failing in my perspective if you haven’t found a routine that works for you or a ritual you can lean into. Each day though, you have an opportunity to search for one or both. Try.
Hope you liked the theme on routines and rituals for this week’s posting. I will be getting a cast up this week, so get ready for that. It’s going to be a “walk and talk” cast like the one I did in April. It will tie back to this post as well. I’ll be exploring out loud my perspective on routines and rituals.