Red lights will have you stop. In a car, you should do this for sure. But in life, personal red lights or challenges, road blocks, you need to run those lights. It’s going to be hard because you have an unconscious bias that wants to keep you from running into things that are dangerous. Your brains are wired to avoid conflict. The brain has been designed to keep you out of any kind of suck zone.
Embrace the suck zone. There’s a lot it can tell you. I spent half of my life avoiding things because I was too cautious or didn’t want to go there. My challenge, lean into the read lights, because the next light you will see will be green. Pain, green light. Tough challenge and uncertainty, green light.
We are all going to hit that suck zone sooner than later. What we decide to do at that moment in time potentially, will define us for the rest of our lives.
You will a majority of the time fail in the short term. Getting metaphorically “pulled over” because you ran a light you shouldn’t have, is going to happen. You’re going to be put in check. Lean in though to that as well. Why was it not okay? Reflect. See beyond the moment, it is hard to do. Beyond the edges of the suck zone, is a new you filled with promise and surprise at what you are capable of.
Some the best ways to override my own brain’s hard work to keep me safe, is by being an idiot. As a baby, you didn’t listen to your parents until you tested that hot burner for yourself. It burned the heck out of your hand, but you learned not to do that again. You also learned, you can cook stuff on that burner. Green light. It’s no secret to some of my closest family, friends, and mentors that I love to be an idiot. I found embracing that inner idiot is a great coping mechanism to getting through the suck. Laughing my way through has always served me well. A spoon full of sugar makes the medicine go down. A cup, even better!
Your most inspiring mission statement can fall pray to obscurity. Keep it a premium. Make it the rocket fuel you fill your tank with before starting everyday. Reflect on it. Recite it. Read it out loud. Let it give you the inner sense of purpose it got created for. We all need an inner sense of purpose to find ourselves engaged enough to get through.
What can you grab that creates momentum? Look for the purpose the goal has for your future self. Will it make you better? Will your best self become realized if you can get to the end? You want the work you’re doing here and now to contribute to a future goal or self.
Set a pathway to achieve what you want! The problem with our goals we set out to achieve is they lack a process to get there. Instead of stating, “I want to train for a marathon” we should be stating “I want to be ready for a marathon in 16 weeks.” Or, “I will spend 5 hours running this week towards my 16 week training plan.” Don’t write up generic goals. Instead, write a goal that contains a process and has a clear actionable in it.
I hope Tuesday provides a great opportunity for challenge. Run that red light, you won’t get a ticket. I promise. So long as its not in a car when you do it. I’m not asking you to break the law, I’m asking you to break a personal law. An unconscious bias that holds you back.
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