What do you wish you could do more every day?
I wish I could be a coach more everyday. Help others get the most out of what they want to do and be. Find themselves, their real selves, and how they can honor that where or when they show up.
If I could find work that fits that, I would truly love my work. There have been over the years capacities I’ve been able to do that. I don’t think sitting here now at 48, I’ve found that yet. I’ve found several different ways to do it. Some that worked, some that didn’t.
They say find a job you love, and you will never work a day in your life. I think that could be true, but also simultaneously wrong at the same time. You have to work to find the job you love. You may in your life time, not find it. I think there are relatively few people when you take a poll of those around you that have found the job they love.
When they do, YES, it is amazing as well as everything you read about. However, it takes a lot of crappy jobs along the way to even find out if what you think you love, you will. I have not found that place yet. But, I do see glimpses of it. When I get the snapshot that I might be close, I capture that moment. It’s a milestone marker. We can connect the dots looking backward, to find the way forward.
I think sometimes, like relationships, you have to let the job you love, also find you. You can work so hard to find the “perfect” job you’d love until retirement, but also work to hard, have to high an expectation, that it ruins chances at “love” with jobs you do work through. Kind of like a partner you want to have, you’ve made perfect in your head. You don’t find perfect, it finds you when you stop working so hard being unrealistic. I’m not saying it’s not okay to want what you want. But, be real, let it have a chance to bump into you.
So going back to the question. “What do you wish you could do more of everyday?” I love to coach. I am looking and trying to find jobs that test that in different ways, in different environments. Finding where coaching enriches not only the people I get an opportunity to impact or influence to be their best, but also changes me. Helps me be at my and their best. When you’re working at your best, and it’s at work, you’ll know, that’s the one.
Be ready though. Take it from a 48 year old, who hasn’t found it yet. Who has been trying to find a match for over 26 years, and is having a great time looking, trying, to find it. Just one day, one hour, one minute, everyday.