It's a common mistake made between self-compassion and self-esteem. Just like we can easily swap in error sympathy and empathy which are also very different. Our self-identity is really hard to measure ourselves from our point of view. We sometimes need the feedback or another third party to help us out. I found this test … Continue reading Self-Compassion Is Not Self-Esteem
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Working On Compassion
The whole idea of compassion is based on a keen awareness of the interdependence of all these living beings, which are all part of one another, and all involved in one another. - Thomas MertonHow do we build "keen awareness" in our work to get skilled in practicing compassion? Last post I talked about why … Continue reading Working On Compassion
It’s Just Needed More Than Ever
Compassion: recognizing that the person is in pain (sympathy), feeling the pain of another (empathy), and the authentic desire to alleviate their suffering. As you can guess, we're moving into the compassion deep dive for the theme of this week. In our world environment right now, whether at work or our personal, compassion is an … Continue reading It’s Just Needed More Than Ever
Your Table
It's pretty simple a table won't stand effectively with three or less legs. It usually will topple right over. Your table needs legs. You habits are the legs to your table which is your intention. Our long term success towards being effectively intentional as we move to those goals we want to achieve require certain … Continue reading Your Table
Just Listen
The best way to provide emotional first aid to others is often just to listen. Our problem, we listen to respond more often then listening to just learn so we can support. Sophie Andrews has a great lesson for us in this Ted Talk. It's a little longer than I usually post for a video, … Continue reading Just Listen
Rage Agility
I'm going to deal with rage in this one. My angle isn't going to be the typical one. More about the control of our negative emotions so they can be allowed to enhance and be the catalyst versus a detractor. With rage and anger so relevant in this age of instant access, self-awareness and our … Continue reading Rage Agility
Understanding Needs
It happened. In fact, it happened to me today. Listening, but only listening to respond versus learn. I came into a conversation half way in, chip on my shoulder that I had all the answers, and totally took a situation sideways that helped no one. Insert face-plant here: 🤦🏻‍♂️ Not the best way to motivate … Continue reading Understanding Needs
Your Moments
FOMO. Fear of missing out. It's real. We don't live in the moments enough that we are given. Those very small significant moments that define us. The ones that can bring about the very best version of ourselves if we let them. If we could just be present long enough to notice the pattern before … Continue reading Your Moments
Decide
The only person you are designed to become is the person you decide to be. - Ralph Waldo Emerson We've known so many people in our life times and yet to know so many more. We spend countless hours, days, and years looking at others just stretching ourselves out to be one of them. When, … Continue reading Decide
How Well Are We? How Well Do We Want To Be?
How well we want to be is really dependent on us. We can say others or other situations we may be in are to fault, but ultimately control lies in ourselves. I want to explore more than 2 months into our new year some this idea of personal wellness. Wellness of course is all-encompassing and … Continue reading How Well Are We? How Well Do We Want To Be?
