Out of depth. Waiting for the good news that someone believes in you enough to give you your shot? Your hitting the ground running everyday. But, those pitfalls. Avoid them all you want, one will get you. Face-plant right on the wall or ground. We need to think less like firefighters and make room for a better you. A more structured you.
First its not at all about the activities. Sure, we can learn from them. From time to time it’s good to watch as you go, trying to creep ever closer to the end result. But, it is all about the outcomes. Meetings, club participation, showing up are all activities. That’s all short sided focus stuff. Creating outcomes is a contact sport and long-term. Focusing on improved outcomes better yet. This is what will help you be recognized by your peers or communities as a good resource versus a mediocre one. But, their not created on a team of one and only you.
Ask experts in your choosen field for advantages and pitfalls in what you seek in yourself. Find that consummate pro and interview them. Hearing from them the pitfalls and the disadvantages gives you what you need to create a breakthrough moment. We don’t ask for enough feedback from people around us. We fear to much. Be a pioneer. You can begin to build yourself by asking the settlers around you how they forged new territory. Then you innovate it. Innovating isn’t always about creating something new that no one has ever seen. The best innovation where ideas already, then someone tweaked them to make them even better.
Then there is giving feedback too. You will be known for how effective or insightful your feedback is. After practicing getting it from the above challenge, then you have trust in your ability to give it. Pay it forward as it was done for you at one time on your path. Be specific, approach with positive intent, and make sure it revolves around activity specific feedback. The best feedback comes from a place that revolves around the behavior leaving personal biases. What they have done, versus who they are. Don’t text it. Don’t email it. Give it in person. Build you social currency up. Bring multiple perspectives on behalf of others you may have collected into the total. You will be seen by others as a resource with a well-rounded views and an objective perspective.
Surround and recruit people around you that exceed at things better than you. They will rub off on you. Know what you’re looking to become, then build relationships around you that are experts at that thing you want to be better at. What strengths do they have in abundance compared to you? This is where you can afford to be weaker because you surrounded yourself with people far more qualified to learn from. Having a a great mix of diversity of thought and culture are great haves. They will challenge you to think different. Managing a handful of relationships will be much more personal in connection then a larger one as well as more specialized. Keep this in mind.
In building yourself I cannot promise there will not be pitfalls or opportunities that will knock you to the ground. It will happen. You can excel by focusing on getting greater outcomes, asking for lots of feedback or input along the way, and building experts around you that represent what you hope to become. Keeping yourself in a constant state of learning from others and not just what you find by yourself will create in you a difference maker. Demand difference from yourself. Then help others get it.